I was writing in my journal the other day and this gem of a statement popped in my head: "It's not greedy or wrong to want more." I was writing about the idea that sometimes the same-same gets in our way. The same patterns, the same conversations, the same arguments and the same actions. And while these same-same things might have served us at one point, they sure don't now.
And then I got to thinking about the automatic programmed response to wanting more is to feel guilty or even shame. If you were raised in the time that I was, you were potentially taught by the world and culture around you to be alright with the status quo. When I was growing up it was the the only dream that seemed plausible was to have a comfortable house, with a picket fence and drive a mini-van... But what if the grown up version of you isn't ignited by that dream?
(To note: Systemized privilege plays a huge part in this conversation and I want to address that I am writing from my perspective as someone who was offered privileges because of my family's income level, my upbringing, my race, my sexual preferences, and my gender identity.)
What if you now want more? What if you now want different? What if you strive for breaking out of the box and doing things in a way that serves your soul? What if you don't want to do life in the way that appears to serve the collective?
It's not greedy to want something different, especially when life isn't serving your soul fully.
Life doesn't have to be monotonous and we don't have to wait any longer to be and do what we want. We don't have to be ok with "good enough" anymore. We get to strive for extraordinary.
A few weeks ago I wrote about my soul being bored as fuck, and I'd like to revisit that idea. (You can read that blog article here: Letting Go of The Same Damn Pattern). The same-same of my everyday life got super boring. The monotony of routines, the doing things because it was expected, the following the rules, all of that got super boring for me. I wasn't living my life fully. I was married to the idea that I was wrong and greedy to want more. The "more" I wanted wasn't meant for me for all kinds of reasons. Only other people were entitled to "more."
And then I realized that belief wasn't true anymore. If I wanted to live a full-on, prosperous and abundant life, I could. The same-same could change. I could shift into something more comfortable and life fulfilling. My relationships with my soul people could deepen. I could feel better in my body. I could set strong boundaries around my time. My husband and I could fall more in love. My kids could be happier. I could work in a way that that felt good to my body and soul. Money could flow in and out easily, with overflow. I didn't have to live in a box and feel guilty for wanting more.
And neither do you. Whatever you want in your life- you get to have it without the addition of guilt or shame. You get to live the life that turns you on; a life that you love.
As you claim this life, it might mean you have to wade in some uncomfortable waters as you make adjustments. You might have to let go of thought patterns and everyday actions that just don't serve you anymore. People might have to get used to the new routines, the new boundaries and the shifts inside of you. Some people might fall away because as you shed your old skin, you look and seem different than before. Some people won't like that you are breaking the rules, and that you aren't subscribing to dulled down life. You might feel a little strange as you connect in with your soul and examine every aspect of your life. But in the end, you will have something that looks and feels like you. Something that is greater than anything you've ever experienced before.
It's not wrong to want more or different. You are not greedy.
You get to have the turned on, soul yes life.
You get to be prosperous on every level.
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xoxo,
Katherine
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