Inside this episode we talk about what wealth and money energetics do to friendships and relationships. The question is, as a wealthy woman, who do you hang out with? Maybe it's the same people you have been hanging out with, or maybe as you grow and shift, so do your relationships.
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SHOW TRANSCRIPT:
Hello and welcome back to the She's Sacred Show. I'm Katherine Phifer and I'm so excited that you're here. Welcome. Welcome. We are in the middle of our wealth series and today we are going to talk about who do you hang out with? And this may be like a simple question but it's actually pretty complicated and complex and I want to dive a little deeper into it. It's an unconscious thing. It's not really a block although it can be a block. But it's just this unconscious thing that we have looming around us about as the wealthy woman, as I'm creating wealth for myself, as I'm expanding my wealth, who do I hang out with?
How do people perceive me? And how do I make beautiful, juicy, soul led, amazing connections? And how do I keep the connections that I feel divinely in alignment with. But before we dive in, I have two things for you. One's a question, a favor, really. If you've been listening to the show over the past few episodes, we've been around for about a month, a month and a half. If you've been enjoying the show, could you please share an episode with a friend and invite them into the She's Sacred mission? I would love that. Or share it on your Instagram stories if you do. Please tag me so I can share it again and share you and also feel free to hit the share button and just text somebody an episode, maybe this one and invite them to listen in.
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Okay. So let's dive into who do you hang out with? And how do you consciously make decisions about who you hang out with as the wealthy woman? So there's a lot of complication and a lot of value that we put into wealth and numbers and who we are and where we align with and some of that has to do with the unconscious class system that we all subscribe to.
Some of that also has to do with I might like certain things that some of my friends don't like depending on where we align with and how much money we have and do I hang out with them? Who do I hang out with? Do I hang out with people that I feel like are not really soul led or soul connected, but they have a lot of money?
Do I hang out with people who are soul led but have like a lot of blocks around money? Who do I hang out with? How do I make friends? And this is such a great conversation because it pulls in, The topics of power, authority, prestige, influence, all of that, which I shared in one of the episodes, and it also pulls in the sisterhood wound, which I talked about in another episode. I'll link both of those below too. The short answer is you hang out with whoever you want. Whoever it feels like a soul, yes, I like this person, it feels intuitively like a good person. Hug, decision, fabulousness to be in relation with this person. And don't get wrapped up in what it means in terms of popularity or wealth class or if your self esteem is worth it or can't, needs to be validated because of it.
If you can align back to being in relationships with people who really light your soul up, it doesn't really matter. what their finances look like. So over the years, this has been a complicated thing for me because I've been in arenas where, yeah, that I spent more money than people and there, I've been in arenas where other people have spent more money than me and for a while I subscribed to a validation system where I had to have the right handbag or the right car or the right house or whatever it was that meant that I fit in to the crowd.
And then I started to realize that I didn't like that feeling. And so for a while there, I actively did not subscribe to that. So if everyone had the same purse, the same tote bag, I was not going to buy it. And then I realized that wasn't me either. Cause I really wanted the tote to carry my computer around.
And what I realized was that it's not about the things, it's not about the car you drive, it's not about how much wealth you have that you are showing by flying first class or by, uh, going on trips and staying at five star hotels or eating at Michelin guide restaurants, which I love to do all of those things.
However, what the real value is in is if you can share those things with people that you love and you can Feel good about the investments that you make so that it feels luxurious and it doesn't really matter who you align to and with on a friend level as long as you're aligning with people. So over the past five years I've started to let my soul make decisions on who I spend time with and I have to say the results have been so amazing.
I have a friend in her 70s who went to TCU like I did and we would meet for lunch for once a month and connect over our love of travel and our alignment over where we've lived because not only did she go to TCU, she lived in California in the same place that I did when I was little and we have a lot of things that we can bond over.
The fact that we're friends is so So fun. And there's a 30 year age gap between the two of us. Another girlfriend that I made here in Sicily recently, we connected over the fact that I am new and super curious about Sicilian culture and Sicilian food. We both have 15 year old sons. She has one, I have two.
And we, Talk about life and family and language and we share she knows a lot more English than I know Italian But she's helping me learn Italian And I'm supporting her through learning more English as she goes. She asked me fun questions about the English language. In fact, she was listening to me and she said you say that makes sense a lot. And I don't know what that means. And so I had to explain that makes sense. And it was so fun because I was like, I had to really think about why do I say those three words? That makes sense. All the time. And I have another girlfriend that I met in a program recently and we just have, we've never met in person, but we meet over zoom every month or two and it's so amazing.
We have a lot of things in common. We're both type A. We want to build our businesses in a very magical and soul affirming way. And It's fun to just sit down and talk in a line. And we've never even been in the same physical space as one another. And then I have another friend who I supervised as an art therapy student in high school.
And now she's in her late twenties. And we are for sure going on a trip to London together because We want to do the same things and we both align on the bougier side of London where we want to have tea, we want to go to a show, we want to stay in a nice hotel, we want to really, we want to eat at the restaurants that are just amazing.
She's one of the only people that's asked me for recommendations for London and done them all. Which I took as a sign that we could go on a trip together. And then I have friends that I would not go on trips with, that I would not have fun with because they prefer to use their money differently than I choose to use my money when we travel and they prefer to stay in different kinds of places.
and have different kinds of experiences and that's totally fine. But it's great to know that that isn't something that lights me up and that what I would want to do and where I would want to stay and what I would want to experience doesn't light them up. And we can be friends. We just don't have to go on trips together.
I used to feel like I had to fit in to a certain crowd that money somehow determined that crowd and or finances or wealth or whatever determined that crowd and I realized that that is not for me and I won't ever subscribe to that because It doesn't define me. It doesn't define my relationships. It does not define who I want to be with.
And also I'm not going to shy away from it. I'm not going to look down on it. I'm not going to say that by being wealthy, I'm bad. That is not something I'm going to subscribe to either. Having wealth doesn't mean it has to be either or with who you hang out with and what you do and how you spend your money and what kind of a lifestyle you subscribe to.
You get to decide all of those things. And I would recommend that when you're thinking about your wealth, you think first about what kind of life do I want to live? What's really important to me? How do I want to travel? Do I want to travel? Do I want to stay in five star hotels that feel really luxurious and also ones that make me feel good about staying there because there's plenty of five star hotels that Don't offer that experience.
Do I want to camp and sleep under the stars? Do I want to rent a Airstream and drive around the country? Do I want to fly first class? What, what's going to make me happy? What kind of car do I want to drive? What kind of house do I want to live in? What kind of view do I want to have when I'm looking out the window?
What kind of experience do I want to have? What do I want to have a monthly membership to a fabulous and amazing yoga studio? Do I want to have a gym membership that has a sauna and a steam room and a hot tub and the locker room and a two kinds of pools and amazing classes? Or do I want kind of a gym that just is a room that has a bunch of equipment that I can get in and get it out with?
What kind of life do I want to live? So that's the first question. And then what kind of friends do I want to have that align with me and my soul and who are excited about me living my soul mission, excited about me living out my dreams and my desires and how do they align to me and my, our soul connection?
And if money comes in a wonky or unhealthy way, how can we clear that energy up very quickly or how can we move away from each other? And that's the last thing that I want to leave you with. Any relationships that I have been in that are misaligned because of wealth, I just move away from them. I just allow them to be what they're going to be, but I don't solely connect in with them as I do other ones.
And some of them just fall away naturally. And some of them, just aren't as deep or as close and that's okay too because I just don't have the energy or the capacity to worry about it or to try to make it fit and that is with relationships where I do end up investing my money differently than other people and it also is with people who decide that money means Certain things that I don't agree with, like power and authority and influence.
And I just don't subscribe to those energies. I am sure that we can continue to talk about this for hours and maybe this is something we would talk about in our, in a private container like the She's Sacred Blueprint or the Femme C Suite. Both of those also have open enrollment. Currently I'm booking for January.
It is a deep, deep conversation and it's complicated and It can be so amazing when we clear out the energies of friendships and relationships and create a foundation to have really healthy and amazing relationships. And wealth does play a part of that. There's no way around that. So if you'd like to explore either one of those options, the She's Sacred Blueprint is my eight week one on one intensive and the Femme Suite is my six month one on one intensive.
And I will also leave links for you in the show notes below too. I hope you're doing amazing. I'm sending my love. Have a great day and I'll talk to you soon. Bye.
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