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A few years ago I started picking a word for my next year. And, surprisingly, it stuck through the year. I would think about the word, have it posted, and reflect on it at the end of the year. It was the one thing I did that seemed to stay with me. Resolutions did not. The whole New Year, New Me vibe would fall off by the time February rolled around, and I would feel kinda like I failed. But the whole practice of picking out a word was really fabulous. I also picked a color (it has always been gold) that would match my word.

In those recent years, words like abundance, uncharted and expansive have guided me throughout the entire calendar year.

When picking a word, I recommend thinking about how you want to feel for the whole year. This is an easy way to stay focused on the next level you want to take yourself, and then reflect back on and realize that you are actually doing it! (For example, the year my word was "abundance" I started my coaching business, went to London and Paris with my love AND moved into a new house. The year my word was uncharted, I dived into new unknowns with my health and also with my business).

Down below I share with you three fun ways to "find" your word so that you aren't feeling like you are going around in circles about it.

But before we talk about ways to find your word, let's chat about mantras. Just like your word, a mantra is guiding statement that allows you to stay focused on how you want your year to look and feel. A mantra, like a belief, allows you to recode your mind to see the world in a different way.

One of my favorite mantras is "What's meant for me will not pass me by." When thinking about a mantra, you can literally pick any statement you want! Perhaps you want to focus on your money story this year, a great mantra could be "Money loves me." Or maybe you are ready for manifesting happy love, your mantra could be "Healthy, happy love is meant for me."

And, if you'd like to take your word and mantra to the next level, you could also set goals for yourself for the year. I find that this time of year is fabulous to reflect on how things went for the last calendar year and what you desire for the next year. Not in a resolution-y kind of way, but in a growth kind of way.

For example, maybe your word for 2021 is abundance, and your mantra is "What's meant for me will not pass me by." Your goals could be around how you desire to expand your abundance and how to be open to what's meant for you.

Here are three ways to find your word and mantra:

The first way is to let yourself dream about what you want 2021 to be like and to bring to you. Do you want more time? More love? More friendships? More wealth? More learning? Free write your dreams and write about how it would feel to have whatever you want more of in your life. Then, pick the feeling that feels like it sums up the experience the best. Then, base your mantra on an expanded version of your word.

The second way to find a word is to write out all the words, feelings and beliefs (mantras) that you'd like 2021 to be an example of. Cut out each word, organize them by word or mantra into two separate bowls and pick one from each bowl! Let the Universe decide for you!

And third, a fun way to find your word and mantra for 2021 is put on some soft music, close your eyes and allow the words to come to you. You'll know when the word and mantra are the right fit.

Here are some ideas for words and mantras for your 2021 year:










Progress over perfection.

What's meant for me will not pass me by.

Abundance is my birthright.

It's easy to be healthy.

My life is full of fun, ease and inspiration.

Here's to a healthy, happy, inspired 2021.

With love,


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I have so many food photos in my phone that it created a montage of the photos with music for me. ❤️

I am a BIG foodie. Love food. I think about food even when I am not hungry. And I apparently love to take photos of my meals and sometimes share them on the internet. I realized the other day that I could totally be a food blogger.

So this recipe... It's so good. I loved it. Tony loved it. Even the boys demolished it. And there's seriously so much you can do with it. The boys ate it with regular spaghetti pasta. You could also use another type of pasta, gnocchi or even that cauliflower gnocchi from Trader Joe's.

Ingredients List

Spaghetti Squash or your chosen pasta

Olive Oil

Yellow Onion- About 1/2 of the Onion Finely Chopped

Garlic- 3 finely chopped cloves

Fennel- 1 cup finely chopped

Basil- 1/2 cup finely cut, plus extra to top the dish with

28 oz can of San Marzano Crushed Tomatoes

Kalamata Olives- 1/4 to 1/2 cup, pitted and sliced in half or quarters

White Wine or Vegetable Broth- 1/2 cup

Kosher Salt


Red Pepper Flakes- 1/4 teaspoon

Parmesan Cheese (shredded or flakes)

Optional Protein:

Grilled White Fish (or pan seared and oven cooked)




Set your oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit.

Slice your spaghetti squash in half and scoop the seeds out.

Gently drizzle olive oil onto the cut side of the spaghetti squash, rub it around and add a pinch or two of kosher salt and pepper to the cut side of the squash. Keep the squash cut side up on a baking sheet and cook for 30 to 35 minutes. You should be able to take a fork and create little noodles from the squash when it's done.

While the squash is cooking... (or you could start your pan for boiling water if you are using pasta)...

Start with a large skillet and 1 Tablespoon of olive oil. Once the oil is hot add the onion, garlic and red pepper flakes. Cook until onions are golden, about 5 minutes.

Add the fennel and cook until all of the vegetables are soft and translucent (about 5 minutes).

Add the basil, wine (or broth), olives, 1 teaspoon of salt and a pinch of black pepper. Reduce to low and simmer for about 15 minutes, or until your squash/pasta is done. (If you are making pasta, I highly recommend cooking it with a good pinch of kosher salt. The salt brings out the flavor of the pasta.)

Once your squash is done, take a fork to your cooked squash and drag it along the cut side. Little noodles will come out. Scoop those into a bowl and top with sauce. Add any kind of protein you like. Grilled fish or meatballs would be yummy with this. Add a fine Parmesan and a little extra basil to top and serve.

This would be delicious with a nice side salad.


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If you are waiting for something big, something soul aligned, something true to you, something that you know is destined for you, this message is for you. If you are waiting for a baby, a love, a soul mate, a soul friend, a promotion, a house, a bigger business, something new you want to work towards, something big... It can feel like it's not coming. It can feel like it might not be meant for you. It can feel like you might have to wait forever.

I have a story for you and parts of it I haven't ever shared before. (Also, just a warning, I share about losing a child in the paragraphs below.)

My husband Tony and I met in late 2006 after I made a trans-American move from Boston, Massachusetts to Anchorage, Alaska. I had recently experienced the end of an eight year long on-and-off-again relationship with a man and made a move to Alaska because my parents were there. Tony and I started dating in a whirlwind in the early part of 2007. At that time, Tony was in the Air Force and had moved to Alaska a year prior from Korea.

In the early autumn before I met Tony, I wrote in my journal about the man I desired to walk into my life. I was very detailed. At first, right after we met, I almost missed that the man I describe in my journal was Tony. It took some time to get to know him and he was sweetly persistent that I was the one for him. In time I realized he was the man I dreamed up in my journal. And funny enough, if one event had happened in a different way, if he had been chosen to move to Europe after his year in Korea like he wanted, or if I had decided to not move to Alaska, we wouldn't have met at all.

The winter of 2007 was cozy. We loved hanging out together, and went on frigid adventures to find glaciers. We didn't know where we were headed, but in February of 2007 we found out two things (1) I was pregnant after about a month of serious dating and (2) Tony just received orders to spend 4 months in Iraq starting in May. I didn't want to rush things. I was fine having his baby, but I sure wasn't ready for marriage! So, Tony went off to Iraq and I stayed in Anchorage, worked as a psychotherapist at a local hospital and became the vessel for our little girl.

Before I became pregnant, I was ambivalent about being a mother. But, once I started to feel the micro changes in my body, I fell deeply in love with this soul inside me. We were cosmically connected and I had a fierce need to protect her. In August of 2007, I was six months pregnant and to make a very sad story short, we discovered our little girl wasn't going to live outside of my body. She had a rare, genetic form of a lethal, skeletal dysplasia and her organs were outgrowing her bones. We named her Hazel, and she died on August 15, 2007. Tony came home from Iraq in September, and we were married in a sweet chapel in Hawaii in October. One of the most beautiful gifts Hazel offered me, was this gorgeous, soulful man who was able to take care of me through the phone and internet lines during our intense grief. I knew I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life.

After losing Hazel, I was plagued with the desire to be a mother. I wanted it deep in my bones. I wanted to fill the hole that Hazel left. I wanted to nurture a being for life. I walked by beautifully fertile and pregnant women and thought "Why not me? What's wrong with me? Why can't I have a healthy baby? And, why did she have to go?"

I wanted to be a mother so desperately. Just like I had wildly wanted to be in a happy relationship, before Tony came along. I knew in my heart they were out there... the soul connected family of my own... but I didn't know how they were going to come to me, and I wasn't 100 percent sure they'd find me. For each person I wanted in my life, the life long love and then the babies, I harbored so much anxious fear that they wouldn't find me. I worried I wouldn't do the right thing, or that I would screw it up and they wouldn't come. I fretted that I would be alone forever, and that wasn't what I wanted. I didn't want to be alone.

But they came. And they came once I became an energetic match for them.

Tony came to me. Hazel came, and Jack and Liam came a little later. They all came. All of that desperation and need plagued me, but they just had to arrive at the right time.

And, that's what I want you to know.

If you desire it fully, and know in the depths of your soul that it's meant for you... it's coming. It might come in a way or in a form that you didn't expect, but it's coming. What's meant for you will not pass you by.

The baby. The child. The love. The relationship. The successful business. The promotion. The best soul mate friend. The right idea. The move. The shift. They are all coming. Don't give up before the manifestation arrives. Allow for the lessons to teach you what you need to know, but don't give up.

It isn't about luck, or blessings, or any other form of specialness. You don't have to "do it by the rules" or know what the magical concoction is. You can't screw it up.

Here's some energetic steps you can do to attract in that soul thing your are desiring:

1.) Be super clear what you desire (like I did in my journal about my soul partner).

2.) Feel into the experience of having what you desire in your life, and hold it.

3.) Let go of the feeling of lack, or unworthiness or just plain anxiousness. Let go of the idea that it isn't meant for you. It's either this or something better.

4.) Allow yourself to know it's coming. It's on it's way. She's on her way. He's on his way.

5.) Make room in your life for it to arrive so that you're ready.

6.) And hold in your heart the knowledge that it's out there energetically.

And, if you feel a deep sense of lack (similar to what I did every time I walked by a pregnant woman after losing Hazel, which seemed like in the winter of 2008, every single woman I passed by was pregnant), use examples out in the world not as a symbol of your lack, but a symbol of hope.

Also, this a story to go deeper into at another time, but I did a lot of spiritual healing around my sweet Hazel, to know that she is always with me. I can feel her in every rain drop and gust of wind, see her in every snowflake and flower, and feel her energetically as an integral part of our family.

I love you.

xo, Katherine

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