It's Not Greedy or Wrong to Want More

I was writing in my journal the other day and this gem of a statement popped in my head: "It's not greedy or wrong to want more." I was writing about the idea that sometimes the same-same gets in our way. The same patterns, the same conversations, the same arguments and the same actions. And while these same-same things might have served us at one point, they sure don't now.

And then I got to thinking about the automatic programmed response to wanting more is to feel guilty or even shame. If you were raised in the time that I was, you were potentially taught by the world and culture around you to be alright with the status quo. When I was growing up it was the the only dream that seemed plausible was to have a comfortable house, with a picket fence and drive a mini-van... But what if the grown up version of you isn't ignited by that dream?

(To note: Systemized privilege plays a huge part in this conversation and I want to address that I am writing from my perspective as someone who was offered privileges because of my family's income level, my upbringing, my race, my sexual preferences, and my gender identity.)

What if you now want more? What if you now want different? What if you strive for breaking out of the box and doing things in a way that serves your soul? What if you don't want to do life in the way that appears to serve the collective?

It's not greedy to want something different, especially when life isn't serving your soul fully.

Life doesn't have to be monotonous and we don't have to wait any longer to be and do what we want. We don't have to be ok with "good enough" anymore. We get to strive for extraordinary.

A few weeks ago I wrote about my soul being bored as fuck, and I'd like to revisit that idea. (You can read that blog article here: Letting Go of The Same Damn Pattern). The same-same of my everyday life got super boring. The monotony of routines, the doing things because it was expected, the following the rules, all of that got super boring for me. I wasn't living my life fully. I was married to the idea that I was wrong and greedy to want more. The "more" I wanted wasn't meant for me for all kinds of reasons. Only other people were entitled to "more."

And then I realized that belief wasn't true anymore. If I wanted to live a full-on, prosperous and abundant life, I could. The same-same could change. I could shift into something more comfortable and life fulfilling. My relationships with my soul people could deepen. I could feel better in my body. I could set strong boundaries around my time. My husband and I could fall more in love. My kids could be happier. I could work in a way that that felt good to my body and soul. Money could flow in and out easily, with overflow. I didn't have to live in a box and feel guilty for wanting more.

And neither do you. Whatever you want in your life- you get to have it without the addition of guilt or shame. You get to live the life that turns you on; a life that you love.

As you claim this life, it might mean you have to wade in some uncomfortable waters as you make adjustments. You might have to let go of thought patterns and everyday actions that just don't serve you anymore. People might have to get used to the new routines, the new boundaries and the shifts inside of you. Some people might fall away because as you shed your old skin, you look and seem different than before. Some people won't like that you are breaking the rules, and that you aren't subscribing to dulled down life. You might feel a little strange as you connect in with your soul and examine every aspect of your life. But in the end, you will have something that looks and feels like you. Something that is greater than anything you've ever experienced before.

It's not wrong to want more or different. You are not greedy.

You get to have the turned on, soul yes life.

You get to be prosperous on every level.

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xoxo,

Katherine

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Prosperity Isn't Just About Money

Have you ever thought about prosperity beyond your earning capacity? Until I started coaching, I really didn't know much about abundance, flourishing, or prosperity at all. In fact, I went on quite the journey to understand it. I invested in books, courses and programs so that I would understand prosperity inside and out- because I wanted to be more prosperous than I had ever imagined. I wanted to be more abundant than my wildest dreams. I wanted to feel flourishing on the inside and out. I wanted my family to reap in the flow of all the things I learned. Scarcity was no longer an option- not in money and for sure not in relationships or love.

My prosperity dreams might look a little different than yours, and that's ok. We aren't meant to have the same dreams. But, we are meant to have the prosperity we desire, on all levels. Prosperity in our relationships, our love, our work, our health, our clothes and our home environment. And even more interesting, it's all interconnected. When the prosperity in our relationships elevate, so does the potential for the prosperity in our finances. Same for all areas of our lives.

Before my career in coaching, I worked in a job with a fixed income. My dreams of prosperity were limited to the standards of earning in the field I chose (mental health therapy). I had goals to be a leader in the company I worked for, because my dad was a leader in his field. With that promotion, it meant a little more cash flow and whole lot more prestige. Prosperity was connected to my title. Prosperity was connected to how hard I worked. And I worked hard. Prosperity didn't have anything to do with how the hours in my day went, how tired I was, or how much time I spent with my husband (which, because of our un-traditional work schedules and someone needing to be home with our boys, it wasn't much time at all.)

At the time, I didn't really think about prosperity in my friendships, or my partnership with my husband or even my relationship with my kids. Things were fine- but honestly we were just getting by when it came to feeling prosperous in our lives. We weren't really fully abundant because we didn't know what that meant for us. We had no idea what abundance even meant. We fell into our careers, and we fell into what was expected. We fell into the rules that someone we thought had more authority put in front of us. We didn't know we could make our own rules. We didn't know that what we were living for day in and day out didn't really suit us or our family. We didn't know that our prosperity could be so much more.

Fast forward a few years, and I feel confident in leaning into the rules of abundance. There's more than enough to go around. More than enough love, money, soul friends, clients, connection with my husband, kids and family, clothes, fun bed linens and healthy food. More than enough time, rest and health too. More than enough money. An overflow, really. There's plenty, always.

Now, I live my life from a flourishing place. And if something doesn't feel prosperous, I try to figure it out. This prosperity thing isn't a one and done sort of fixed model. It's a growth mindset model. Prosperity grows as you grow. Prosperity shifts as you shift.

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Until next time, be amazing and do fabulous things.

Love, Katherine

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Letting Go of The Same Damn Pattern

It was the same. Day in and day out. The same patterns. The same thoughts. The same questions.

I found comfort in the same-ness, but also dreaded it in equal measures. I wanted different. I knew deep down what it would mean for me to experience difference. But I was afraid, and stuck and worried about what other people would think.

3am journal sessions would list out all of the reasons my soul was over it. But in the daylight, I would go back to the same pattern, the same boring routine and do it all again.

As my coach Jenna Black says, my soul was bored AF. And it would continue to be bored until I did something about it. I had spent my entire life shape-shifting myself into versions of what other people expected to be. The good girl. The nice girl. She didn't disrupt. She didn't even like the word disrupt. She kept her true gifts quiet, waiting for other people to notice them on the fly. She followed the rules, mostly. And rebelled in secret. She melded into the patterns of her culture, thinking she would be successful and liked if she looked like everyone else.

But then, I realized that I really didn't fit in to the standards that my culture had created. Honestly, I never had actually fit in, ever. And instead of trying to pretend to fit in, when I really didn't, maybe it was time to fully stand out?

I started to set standards around how I would engage with my life. What was serving me? What wasn't? I began to increase the things that served my soul and unsubscribed to the things that didn't. I honored myself above all others. I allowed myself to take care of me first, knowing that I would take better care of my loved ones and the people in my realm when I was fully grounded in my soul's desires. I created boundaries with myself around what I was available for. I examined my entire life, including my family, my work and my relationship with myself. What did I need? What was I over? What was I ready to change? Who did I really want to be?

I raised my standard, really. I allowed myself to heal on a cellular level. I listened to my body. I allowed for more of the real me, until that's all I could only be. And I let go of the stuff that I couldn't energetically align with.

I asked my spirit squad for help. God, The Universe, my Spirit Guides- anyone up for the job- I asked them to help me see the next right step. I asked them for help knowing what was soul aligned. And the answers showed up in coaches, healers, programs, ideas and opportunities I had never considered before.

Knowing what lights up my soul continues to be a work in progress, really. But instead of looking for the answers to what my soul wants by crowd sourcing, or scrolling mindlessly on Instagram and Pinterest, I now know that I just have to ask my soul what it wants. And then, be prepared for the answers.

How about you? Is your soul over it? What's it asking for you to do?

Until next time, be well and do amazing things.

Love,

Katherine xx